When I started Plan B in the early fall of last year I was fueled by listening to an inner voice that wanted to challenge the affects we have in the lives of ourselves, and those around us. I was at a place when I was searching for a meaning of more, and listening to those around me who were also wanting more. Yet, each of us felt they we were at a standstill in our presence on this terrain.
What evolved from meetings in a hotel lobby bar is what you read today: Plan B, Life’s Discussion. I looked around me in the eyes of friends, and then I looked in the mirror myself, and I began to understand that what I was seeing was fear. Fear that we may have missed our opportunity of a golden sunrise. Fear that we would forever be stuck in this mundane existence of living out our legacy by settling; whether in our relationships, our careers, our choices, or merely put our continuations. I listened to you tell the stories of wanting to move to the next chapter in your lives, yet not certain on how to get there, and defiantly at a loss for resources. In order to make a difference, Plan B was going to have to provide assets of the mental and spiritual nature that could assist in unlocking creativity, provide a springboard to new heights, and give you a challenge in many facets of your lives. Since its birth, I have heard stories of how Plan B has in fact made such a difference; it has implemented a change in your lives … causing you to think, to step outside yourselves, and to approach life from a different logic. A logic that encompasses risk, bravery, and a notion of attempt.
Lately I had a reminder of how when we are growing and changing we often go from one extreme to the next before we can find balance. My life the past couple of weeks has been a whirlwind of emotions, from being high in the clouds with bliss to feeling lost and confused over proceedings that seem to be unraveling. The bliss part was easy. In fact I think it would be safe to accuse the majority of you to also deal well when bliss is embracing us. However, if my theory is correct then the following hypothesis is true: When faced with bliss, we prepare ourselves for disaster for we are more equipped to handle the bad than the good.
Let’s Play Scientist: observation and calculation
FEELINGS: I saw myself caught up with emotions. My heart was skipping a beat, I was glowing, and I felt like I was floating on air …. A part of me was embracing the moment, relishing in the notion that skipping around like a giddy school girl was appropriate behavior ….
DOUBT: I heard myself utter the phrase countless times … when is the other shoe going to drop. Not only did I utter, I wrote it, I mumble it, hell, I autographed my future best selling book entitled, “Well, when is it?”
DEFEAT: And within an instant of signing my Herby Hancock other events started to transpire that let to the next phrase, I knew it …. I let my negative side come to surface and play a role in my life. I sat feeling defeated …
RESULTS: Ah, that’s the beautiful part … I get to determine that. I can be plagued with doubt and defeat, and surrender to the negativity that faces me. Or, I can make a choice to use the tools I speak of in Plan B to change my thinking.
CONCLUSION: We have had events in life that have led us to become distrustful and to seek out the negative in a situation. We put up barriers and roadblocks, for we know what to do when the negative happens, and we have learned how to mange, prevent, and treat those happenings in our lives. We have grown to expect more negative than positive; not only do we expect it, but … and prepare yourself for what I am about to suggest …. We seek it. We seek out negative because it fits in our comfort zones. When we are happy, and positive, we tend to feel uneasy and uncomfortable because we are having doubts … we are feeling uneasy because we doubt ourselves and our ability to deserve pleasure in our lives. We are feeling uncomfortable because the pleasure is so good we fear it will go away, and therefore we in a sense send it away.
Each day is a choice; each day can be a struggle or an opportunity. Some days you will struggle, you will be in the extreme of emotion searching for an outlet. You are going to have days that are going to block your positive thinking. These days are going to try to defeat you and take away your bliss, your glow, your skip in your step. There is no preventing them … they will come. But my dear readers, if you take anything away from Plan B, know this … you already have the tools and resources inside of you to overcome life’s challenges. You must believe in your power; you have control of your course … you can follow the detour signs and get lost somewhere in “How-Did-I-Get-Here-Ville” or … you can read the manual on how to work your inner GPS system and navigate your way back to the main road. Either way, you get to make this choice in your life. And as you decide you will find that there will be a seesaw between your emotions until you find your balance, until you find your way. Use that time to grow and discover, and I think you will find you have had this power all along … Plan B only helped to push away the doubt and unleash the power within.