Saturday, December 4, 2010

From Thanking, comes Thinking, which Delivers Opportunity

Charles Dickens wrote, “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times.” I’m certain he was a genius, summing up idyllically everything that most of us feel on any given day. Each of our lives blessed in countless ways, yet struggling to fight battles, some yet to be named.

With Thanksgiving recently passing, of course I did my fair share in partaking in the traditions. Cooking (a pickle tray counts), baking (someone will eat that pie if they are hungry enough), football (one word – godilovethatsport – it’s a word, sound it out), eating (apparently lions are not the only mammal capable of consuming 15% of their body weight in one sitting, and then be satisfied for days), drinking (cheers!), time with family / friends / loved ones (life truly does not get much richer) and last but not least – giving thanks.

Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays in the sense that for the most part, it’s a relaxing commemoration in honor of thanks. In our household, the day has been known to typically be pressure free. A day filled with volunteering some years, others with numerous stops at friend and family member’s homes. Each Thanksgiving has without fail delivered the delicious goods – the traditional trimmings not complete without my all time love, green bean casserole. Some years we hit the front yard for a friendly game of football, which somehow turns into something of the non-friendly nature involving curse words and tackling, proceeded by grandma breaking out the medical kit – side note/ challenge: hey cuz, I still have that scar, and still demand a rematch whenever you’re brave enough.

One solid denominator is the point in which each year comes the moment when I stop, take it all in, and smile – No matter how chaotic or non eventful, that single day serves as a reminder of what we have to be thankful for each and every day. The value of relationships, the appreciation for our careers, the gift of warmth in our home, the array of possibilities, the magnitude of love, the gratitude towards life.

All of this thanking … lead me to thinking …

Thinking about all the different kinds of relationships that make up our lives – there are those that are new and exotic, those that are intriguing and addicting. Relationships whose work is completed and those with unfinished business. Some bring up questions, others provide answers. Some familiar, some distant, some refreshing, and some frustrating. Relationships, in all different capacities, have the power to bring us to places unexpected – heightened awareness, perspective, feelings of extraordinary caliber, of both extremes. No matter what the title of the affiliation – family, friend, lover, fiancé, spouse, self – every connection provides a stepping stone to a path of opportunity in our lives. An opportunity paved with blessing …

Thinking about the worries of today. Failing, falling short, extreme frustration, just to name a few of those voices in our heads telling us that we have not lived up to our end of the bargain in this crazy thing called life. Worries that we are not good enough or smart enough or pretty enough. Some worries lead into self destructing insecurities and fear. Some force us to hide. Others find us on our knees at 2am, unable to sleep, praying for a way to pay the next bill, or to mend a broken heart, or searching to find forgiveness, or even harder at times, to deliver. Ultimately, we have a tendency to be consumed with the daily threats in our lives. Like the threat of not having enough money. Like the threat of losing our jobs. The threat gas prices are going up yet again, or the economy is going to crash from under us. The threat of being vulnerable. The threat of being weak. The threat of defeat. But when the day is over, and we take light of the obstacles we have indeed overcome, in both the small and big spectrums, there is an opportunity paved with blessing …

Thinking about the past. We keep skeletons in the closet, secrets tucked away in the bookshelf, lies buried deep. We don’t give time to grieve, leaving wounds of the past open. We deny emotions, neglecting our hearts. We blame ourselves for mistakes, regrets, and failures. We hide behind our own self-destructing insecurities and fears. All in which can manifest into the fear of the unknown. Fear of disappointment, rejection, uncertainty. While it’s true that each of us in some manner has given in to becoming gluten for punishment, I wonder when we will be done subjecting ourselves to our very own sadomasochism and say, “I’ve had enough.” And when we truly are done subjecting ourselves, and give permission to let go … there is an opportunity paved with blessing …

Thinking about the future. In your relationships, your careers, your goals and ambitions - What’s preventing you from moving forward? Is it worth the risk of keeping something that could be so detrimental? Or loosing something that could be so valuable? At any moment the decision you make can change the course of your life forever – I wish I wrote that, but Anthony Robbins trademarked it first. The most precious commodity we have is time, and my question to you is, are you going to waste it by holding on to the yesterdays – or are you going to move forward? What you add to your life is up to you entirely and completely. Shed the hurt, leave behind the pain, weed out the toxic. Make room for forgiveness, demand healing, appreciate the value of love. The best of times yet to be had can only be experienced at its full potential when the worst is dealt with. And in that, there is an opportunity paved with blessing ….

Perhaps there is not a right time, a right moment, a right answer, a right choice – but there is one day where it all seems right to consider about all of the thoughts on your mind and be left with one feeling: gratitude. Stop chasing your past, and stop living for the future. Right here, right now, in this moment while you are giving thanks, remind yourself that with all of your doubts and frustrations, you are blessed with more than ten times that in gifts. Gifts that you may not realize, gifts that you may not fully appreciate or understand - maybe you just have to go with the intuition of what’s in your heart. And in that intuition, final seize the opportunity, paved with blessing …

1 comment:

  1. All one shall say is your "RIGHT" on the money honey..

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